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How To Get Rid Of Self Doubt Once and For All

How To Get Rid of Self Doubt

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If you’ve ever suffered from self doubt, imposture syndrome, or anything that is keeping you stuck and from living the life you deserve…

​This is for you.

It's time to get rid of the self doubt that's weighing you down once and for all!

I think this is something I've realized in my life and I think every human being should be aware of this…

Because once you know this…

You have the power to go out and absolutely crush it in every single area of your life. 

  • I'm talking business. 
  • I'm talking relationships. 
  • I'm talking about having the power to be able to CREATE YOUR PERFECT LIFE.

However that looks for you. 

​I want to share with you a realization that changed absolutely everything for me. 

So today I'm going to share with you some ways on how you too can get rid of self doubt once and for all.

This is when I saw my business absolutely take off and I changed so many things in my life and I've now been able to create what I see as  MY perfect life... 

The way I want to live it. 

Everyone chooses to live their lives differently.

I want you to have a realization for yourself that will allow you to go out and create your perfect life as well.

I stepped into the online world a few years ago and I knew what I wanted…​

  • I knew what my perfect business looked like for me.
  • I knew the action steps I needed to take to grow my ideal business.
  • I knew how I wanted my life to look 
  • I knew I wanted to travel whenever and wherever I wanted to and never have to worry about money again.
  • I knew the steps it would take to grow my business. 

Ever felt like things weren’t happening fast enough?

I got to a place where this defining moment happened for me.

  • I realized the stuff I wanted…
  • The way I wanted my business to look…
  • The income I desired…
  • The amount of people I wanted to help...

I could not make it happen unless I became the person who could make it happen. This my friend was the BIG SHIFT...

In this moment, I was not the person who could get the job done. 

  • Did I have value? 

Yes, of course I did. 

  • Did I have self-doubts? 

Well, sure everyone does.  But my point with this is…

There are certain characteristics that people who get the job done have.

We're talking about the characteristics of highly successful people. 

So if you're out there working your ass off and you know what you want and it's not happening, you have to be real with yourself and ask yourself...

  • Am I the person who can create this?
  • Who can get the job done?

Because I wasn't. 

And you might not be either. 

And that is perfectly fine because you CAN become that person. 

So let's talk about it...

4 Characteristics You Need To kick ass in your business and life and to be able to create whatever the hell you want.

​#1 It's going to take some balls, lady balls

It's going to take an enormous amount of courage! It's going to take you stepping up to the plate and becoming more passionate and more energetic.

​#2 You might have to become a little more alpha

Why? Because people listen to people with confidence, with posture, with charisma, and who are more alpha.

It's just the way it is. 

So if you're a total l introvert…

You're going to have to come out of your shell at certain times. 

There are times when you have to bring it, you simply have to bring it! 

​#3 You can’t let self doubt overshadow everything

You have to become more charismatic, have more posture, more conviction, more passion, more energy, more alpha, right? 

Because those are the people who get the job done…

You've got to become the person who can kick the self doubt and the fear to the curb and get the job done. 

​#4 You've got to become the person who no longer cares what other people think of you.

That right there is holding you back. 

It held me back my entire life until like two and a half years ago, and I'm pissed off that I let that hold me back all those years.

Here are some extra tools ​to help yourself become that person. 

1.

Read Dr. Joe Dispenza's book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself 

Because all the shit that's holding you back is shit from your past. You got to get rid of it. His work on rewiring the brain is fantastic and I highly recommend it. It’s imperative. 

2.

Visualization

Visualize who you want to become, where you want to be, and visualize that every single day. 


You don't just watch the movie in your head, that ain't enough.


​You've got to feel what it would feel like being that person.


Having the things that you want.


You have to put the emotion behind the vision.


So when you're playing that movie in your head…


You're not only watching it, but you're feeling it in your entire body. You gotta do both. Okay? 

3.

Another thing you can do is think about five people that you wish you were more like...


Why do you wish you were more like them?  Because they have characteristics that you wish you had. We're attracted to people that are like us, but we're also attracted to people who we want to be more like. 


So think about those five people that you're really, really attracted to…


It could be anyone, a politician, an actor. I don't care who it is, but why are you attracted to that person? I guarantee it's because they have characteristics that you would like to have yourself. 


And guess what?


You can have them. 


You can adopt those same characteristics.


Determine those characteristics that those people have that you want to have for yourself and you add that into your visualization. Think about the

way you want to be...


  • "I want to have that person's confidence level."
  • "I want to have that person's passion."
  • "I want to have that person's energy."
  • "I want to have that person's balls, that person's lady balls, whatever it may be…"

You start doing the visualization as YOU having those characteristics and feel how it would feel to be more confident, to be more ​ballsy, to be more bold.

You start becoming that person...NOW 


It breaks my heart to hear people say...


"When I am more confident my business will probably take off"


I know this because I use to think the same thing…


But how is your business going to take off by you becoming more confident first?


I'm telling you, it is very, very hard to build a business where you are having to get sales, you're having to ask for sales or you're having to bring people into your business...


If you don't have passion, posture, conviction, or any balls, you won't do it. 


You won't get it done.

 

You're not going to talk to enough people. You're not going to influence them with your posture. If it's not there, they feel it and they don't want to listen to you because they aint feelin’ ya…


So that's what I mean by you have to become the person who can get the job done. It means:

  • Doing some personal development
  • Learning to drop your ego
  • Getting to a place where you don't care what people think of you.

Are you a good person? I'll bet YOU ARE! Therefore, who the hell cares what other people think of you? If you've got your mission and you're a good person, that is all you need.

 

Why do people not like other people?


Quite frankly, it’s simply different personality types, so you have no control over that. 


So stop caring what other people think of you.


And here's the truth. You think other people are thinking these things?


99.9% of them are not even thinking what you think they’re thinking. 

That's all in your head.  How shitty is that?  We let the possibility of what someone might think of us, hold us back.


But no more…


Reclaim your power, reclaim it!! And just go out there and be your true, authentic self. Be happy with your true authentic self. 


I remember when I first started doing video...


My concerns of what people thought were: 

  • “She doesn't know what she's talking about.”
  • “What the hell is she talking about now?”
  • “What is she doing?” 
  • “Has she lost her mind?”
  • “Is she going through a midlife crisis?” 
  • “Oh my God, she has a double chin”

One day I stopped and I watched one of my videos back and I went,

 “My eyes are two different sizes”


But that day I realized that I had gotten over myself because I went 

“okay, whatever” and I moved on.


I told myself...


“I'm on a mission to create my perfect life so I can not allow this crap in my head to hold me back!”


So don't let that hold you back either.

 

Decide you’re now the person you need to be to be able to create your perfect life because you've got it inside you!! 


It's all there already. 

It's just waiting to come out. 

You gotta  get out of your own way and let that come out. 


And I'm telling you, when you get to a place where you're able to live as your true authentic self…


holy shit, holy shit…


That's when you start living at a freakishly high vibration all the time.


And life is just completely different when you're living at that high of a vibration. 


If you know me at all, you know I'm prone to breaking down in tears out of pure freaking joy all the time. It happens to me or probably three, four times a day because I'm so happy because I got rid of all this shit in my mind, in my head that was keeping me back. 


And you know what?


Everybody needs to put in the work.

 

I haven't met a single person who doesn't need to put in the work and get rid of the shit from their past and become who they need to be.

 

So if that's you, guess what? You're normal. You're human.


I'm telling you there is so much power and you will become very powerful in a very good way. When you get rid of this stuff and you get to use that power in a way that's going to influence and help so many other people... 


Isn't it our duty to grow as human beings and become our true or authentic self? Better versions of ourselves so that we can pass that forward?


This is my my message...


If everybody on the planet worked on themselves and got to a place where they could just come from a place of pure joy all the time and radiate positive energy…


It would get out of control in a positive way on the planet, right? 


I call it a JOY virus!


And that would just freaking spread and it would start to wipe out the fear and the hate and all of that crap. And quite honestly, I'm serious.  We could change the freaking planet just by doing that.


But you’ve got to start with yourself...

 

And even on a smaller scale...


When you get to that place of high vibration and you're only radiating that to your immediate family and the people in your immediate vicinity, that changes them.


Cause I'm telling you, when you are able to control your state, you are able to control the state of others.


So when you’re in such a good place, people around you feel that..

  • Your kids: Do you think they would have less issues, more joy in their lives if they're feeling that from you? 
  • What about your spouse? 
  • What would that do for your relationships?

So if you put yourself in that place, you get to help other people get to that place as well.

 

You’ve got to start with yourself.  You might have to step up and become a better version of yourself to create the kind of life that you want for yourself.


You have the power, right? This means you play the role.


You step into the shoes of a creator, not a victim.


I realized that pretty much all my life, if I kind of played the role of victim, I wasn't “Oh, poor me,” but I kinda just stepped back and let life happen to me.

 

I didn't understand. 


I kind of thought that I had a smaller role in my life than I actually did, and that stuff just kind of happened to me and I didn't really have that much control.


I learned that you're the star of your own movie. All the rest of the people are just playing characters. This realization put me in the role of a creator, right? And this is what has absolutely changed my business and my life.


I wanted to share this message today so that you too have the power.


  • You have the tools…
  • You're changing your perception.
  • And you're taking control…

You're doing the personal development. The work necessary to become the person you need to be so that you can create your perfect life. 


Because why the hell would you not? 


Why the hell would you not use this power, this internal power that is already inside you? Why would you not use it if you choose not to use it? 


That means you're choosing to remain a victim of circumstance as opposed to being a creator.


I really hope you feel me on this. Please let me know if you do. 


If you got any value from this post, please share it. This is a message I want to share to as many people as possible. How many lives could improve if everyone knew this message?


So I want to get this message out. 


Cheers!

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